Maryann Bucknum Brinley

167 Cooper Avenue
Upper Montclair, NJ 07043-1810

mabrinley@verizon.net

973-202-5909 (cell)
973-746-1608

The Secrets of Happy Parenting

More than 16 years ago, I wrote a book about the secrets of happy parenting. My children, Zach and Maggie, were still children then but the world was just as complicated for parents trying to be happy. In fact, I have researched and written a lot about pregnancy and parenting issues – once from the perch of the director of the Infants and Children’s Laboratory at the Good Housekeeping Institute. Zach is a father of two now. His son, Finn, is 2 ½ and my granddaughter Charlotte just turned 1. Now, Maggie is pregnant with her first, a daughter who will be born sometime around Dec. 4. I am deeply in love with this role of grandmother. So as I look back at parenting and my daughter Maggie looks forward, I have decided to launch a blog, retooling some of those secrets I shared way back when and, at times, examining parenting from two different generational points. Maggie, a wonderful writer as you will discover, is a nurse at New York University’s Langone Hospital.

Having Fun Is An Important Parenting Skill!

Maryann Bucknum Brinley - Friday, September 06, 2013

You don't teach kids how to be happy. You show them. You are their role model for living happily ever after.

Enjoyment is a key element in anything you do. When you enjoy what you are doing, no matter what it is – even something you’ve decided you simply “must do” or “have to do”—the task becomes easier and more rewarding. Enjoying your children or your grandchildren is essential. It also makes life a lot easier.

Each stage of parenting brings with it new joys as well as new problems. But if you are constantly anticipating a rosier future, a time when life will be better than ever, you run the risk of missing the joys of today.

Consider this: You can’t count your blessings if you can’t see them. And enjoying your children’s development, not enduring it, should become second nature to you.

If you are overtired, overworked, in overload, however, you won’t be able to discover the best parts of each and every age. To experience the joy and thrill of this present moment in your life, you need to be in good shape emotionally as well as physically.

Slow down so you can see better.

Save time to do nothing.

Create a fun reserve and draw on it regularly. If parenting experts suddenly pronounced that the way to raise brighter, happier, healthier, more successful children was to have unstructured, silly, lighthearted fun daily, then you would find a way to fit it into your life.

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